Here continuing with Self-Correction and Self-Commitment from Day 166: Be Brutally Honest With Me - Part 1.
SELF-CORRECTION AND SELF-COMMITMENT
STATEMENTS
When and as I see that I am about to
enter into an agreement to be brutally honest with another, I stop
and breathe. I realize that honesty does not equal stability nor
does it assist and support others with awareness, understanding, and
working on solutions – especially when approaching the ‘honest
information’ from a point of reaction. So, how I share honesty
with others when working through a problem is no different from how I
would approach honesty with myself when working on a problem where I
clear myself of reactions so that I can look at the problem
realistically and construct practical, trustworthy solutions.
I commit myself to stopping
automatically responding to others requests for brutal honesty by
breathing, slowing myself down, and allowing myself to take a moment
to look at the known and/or potential outcomes to see if it’s best
for myself and others for me to respond or if it’s best for me
assist and direct the situation to understanding, awareness, clarity,
and stability.
When and as I see that I am quickly
going into an assumption about how an event is going to play out
positively if/when/as I am honest, I stop and breathe. I realize
that I have not allowed myself to slow down and look at
events/scenarios/situations – I go right into my mind and speed
ahead to the part where everything almost always works out for the
best.
I commit myself to put a guard on my
mouth, to stop going over the information within/as situations,
scenarios, and events quickly and to take the time to sort through
what’s going on with breathing, slowing myself down, looking at
events/situations/scenarios practically, asking questions, and
sharing perspectives on what’s going on as well as potential
solutions that I see.
When and as I see that I am
experiencing shock because something happening in the external world
is not working and/or not in alignment with my beliefs that I have
stored within and as me as information, I stop and breathe. I
realize that I am showing myself that my belief is not real. Instead
of going into my mind to distract myself with figuring out what went
wrong, I direct myself to the physical act of writing out the
beliefs, the consequences of my beliefs, self-forgiveness for my
beliefs, and self-correction so that I do not continue with the
pattern.
I commit myself to stopping myself from
going into a shocked experience by STOPPING, breathing, stopping
myself from going into my mind to figure out what happened, and
directing myself to the physical act of writing it out, applying
self-forgiveness, and self-correcting myself. I commit myself to
embrace these moments of my beliefs getting blown apart, face myself,
and then realign myself with what is best.
When and as I see that I am attempting
to go into my positive beliefs about Honesty as indicated by me
looking to get a positive energetic experience of Hope, I stop and
breathe. I realize that my beliefs about honesty are lies – they
are bullshit stories and phrases that I have told myself in an
attempt to get out of facing the physical consequences of things I’ve
done and/or participated in that I’m having a negative emotional
reaction to. I realize that I’ve automated this at this point –
that I will have the negative experience and then immediately seek
out the positive – and it’s easier – it’s quicker and easier
to forget than actually taking the time to balance self-honesty with
self-responsibility and being an active participant in my
self-change.
I commit myself to stop going into my
positive beliefs about Honesty and within this stop going for the
positive energetic Hope experience as a way to feel better about my
negative emotional reaction to something I have done and/or
participated in. Instead of going into the belief, I breathe, slow
myself down and back myself to my negative emotional experience and
investigate why I went into it in the first place – I ask myself
questions: Why am I trying to forget about this? Why am I trying to
take the easy way out of this? What can I do to actually change this
so that I can live in a self-honest, responsible way and not keep
creating this sort of consequence for myself? Here, also, I commit
myself to writing these points out on paper/screen so I have them in
front of me and can work with them in physical reality rather than in
my mind where things get foggy or are easily forgotten with
distraction.
When and as I see that I am about to
automatically go into my mind-purge ‘honesty’ that I have
justified and excused with my belief system about honesty, I stop and
breathe. I do not go there. I realize that no good will come of
this and that the clean-up will be extensive and that some of the
damage may be irreparable. This is not something that I want for
myself and others.
I commit myself to STOP automatically
going into a mind-purge when and as I am asked for honesty. I put a
guard over mouth, I breathe, and make certain that I am clear before
I speak. When and as I am clear, I direct the question/request of
Honesty to a solution focused discussion where I ask questions,
investigate what’s going on, share perspectives and suggest
solutions.
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